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I am 47-years-old and have been happily married to the same woman for the last 15 years. We have two sons, 13 and 11 years of age. My wife is a teacher and I am an engineer. Every Friday evening, the whole family dines outside and enjoys quality time with one another. On Saturday mornings, I leave the family to join my buddies for golf in Batam and return back home by Sunday evening.
The thing is, I don’t really play golf with my friends. I just tell my wife and kids that. I’m actually visiting my mistress and daughter living in Batam. Nobody knows about this.
Love Across the Sea
I met *Wati, my mistress, when I went to Batam one weekend to relax. My wife had taken the kids to Malaysia to visit her mother and I just didn’t feel like driving all the way up. Instead, as soon as the family was off in the coach, I drove to the ferry terminal and boarded the ferry to Batam with thoughts of a rejuvenating weekend ahead. After checking in, I decided to get a foot massage. Visiting one of the popular massage parlours, I requested for a male masseuse but the only free person was a young girl. More concerned about relieving my tense muscles, I decided not to be picky and allowed them to send me whoever was free.
When she stepped into the room, I knew I was in trouble. She was absolutely stunning. She couldn’t have been more than 18-years-old. Her delicate features and creamy skin made me want to just hold her tight and shield her from the horrors of the world. As she worked her way through my sore foot muscles, I asked her a bit about herself. With her head down, she nervously answered me. She was 19-years-old and had come to Batam, from East Java, to earn a living. Her family consisted only of an older sister who was already married.
After the massage was over, I knew I just had to see her one more time. I asked her out for dinner but she hesitated. I assured her that it was just dinner and that I didn’t really want to dine alone.
Finally she agreed and I told her to meet me at one of the nearby restaurants around 7pm. I tipped her well and was off on my way. That evening as I got ready in my hotel room, I couldn’t help feeling like a schoolboy who was about to go on his first date. I splashed on some Old Spice and went downstairs to the gift shop to purchase a box of chocolates.
When I saw Wati, the second time that day, I knew I had lost my heart. She seemed too beautiful to be real. I kept pinching myself to check if it was all a dream. After a couple of rounds of drinks, Wati opened up more and we shared our past and present. I told her about my job and family. I didn’t want to keep anything from her. However, I did see the disappointment in her eyes when I mentioned my wife and children. But after a while, we moved on to other things. After dinner, I brought Wati back to my room. I don’t know if it was the drinks or the Gods upstairs were having a bet, but whatever the reason, Wati and I did things that night that changed her life and mine to a certain extent.
After smuggling visits to see Wati over 4 months, I decided to buy her a house in Batam. After a few months, Wati bore me a beautiful baby girl with the same creamy, soft skin. I was ecstatic and delirious with joy. I had always wanted a baby girl! Now my little princess is a bubbly 5 years-old who greets her daddy with kisses and big hugs. Wati is also currently pregnant with our second child and I’ve just bought her a bigger place to move into.
I see Wati and my daughter on the weekends, fortnightly. My wife doesn’t really pry into my ‘golf’ sessions so everything is flowing smoothly. I have a good relationship with my sons and nobody is being neglected in my choice of life. I send Wati money regularly so that she doesn’t have to work.
I have dreams to live out my old age with Wati but I don’t think I can ever tell my wife about this secret life.
* Names have been changed to protect the identity of the writer.
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Shame on you!
I kinda understand why you fell for her. Having an affair is easier than most want to believe. We are human after all
Johnny, Good that you share.
It’s never easy trying to untangle the mess one has unintentionally begun.
Affair is easy when you give in to lust and find that 20% in her that you don’t in your wife.
In the end, it only hurts all 3 parties.
I was at the receiving end, lost my faith in marriage and lost all meanings in life, just looking for that one reason / prompt / nudge to just jump out of the window.
Thank God that I was saved before I self destruct.
God healed the hurt and pain that I endured for 2+ years.
I hope you can seek God for help soon.
No one knows how long this can remain covered.
I pray that somehow, all parties can reconcile in peace.
I pray that you do not lose anything in the end.
Peace.
Pity your wife..
I have dreams to live out my old age with Wati !!
wow – no one is being neglected in all this? keep telling yourself that buddy.
my advice – quit lying to yourself and to everyone else and make a stand. choose. being wishy washy and telling yourself half truths to get by are ridiculous. i can see right thru it. you are a liar sir, not just to the readers of your article, but to your family and even yourself. even in your article you seem to be not just trying (and failing) to convince your audience that all is well, but yourself.
how can you tell yourself that no one is being neglected? your wife gets some of your attention, but you hide this part of yourself. red flag. your sons have no idea of your other mistress and children. red flag. wati is not being made an honest woman as you are denying her the right to be with you. red flag. your daughters get to see you once in a while?! RED FLAG.
don’t be surprised if when your secret comes out (and it will, trust me. secrets are always wanting to be known) if everyone leaves your sorry self and you are ALONE. consider THAT if you can without lying to yourself.
red flag.
first of all, i took my hat off u as u got tha courage topost it here. well actually hve u tot of ur wife n family whn u did thing with Wati? hve u spare a tot for Wati? did u ask her whether is she happy with her current life? being all alone in Batam? whn she needed u most, where were u? u spend time with ur wife n i’m sure that if she needed you, you’re always there for her. but Wati? poor mummy being alone with her girl and both of them miss u so much so much?
You had hurt your wife whom had trusted you all the while, which you dont deserve it.
In directly you are hurting your children.
There is such a thing as temptation, and there is also such a thing as control.
In this world, there will be many Watis with creamy skin and stunning features, and more importantly, young. How many more times will you have mistresses, since your Wati will grow old too one day?
You are being very unfair to your wife and sons. And damn selfish too. How would you like to one day find out that your wife has someone else on the sideline too – that that was the reason why she doesn’t probe into your “golf” sessions?
I hope that with any decency, you will confess to having a mistress, so at least your Missus will take precautions and protect herself. You don’t know whether your Wati has other “husbands” on the sideline too, and you can catch and pass on any STD to your innocent wife.
we need better moral education in school.
Well….i understand that kind of fresh feeling. You should have tell yr wife before she bring a knife and kill you.
Well, this things happen… If anyone in the same situation, be it a guy / gal, would have a certain percentage of falling in love with a stranger… I understand, you take care of yourself.
well u contradict urself there…..u say u r happily married…yet u have a 2nd family….Does ur mistress atleast knw the truth???None of them deserve this!Be a MAN!!!
oh no..how cud u to tat to your wife?I pity ur wife.Honestly,i dun think she can accept it after wat u had done.Trust me!Hv u ever spare thought of her feelin wif u had done?How long can u keep it fm her?If u love her,tell her the true.Dun do tat to her!Dun u destroy ur marriage..
Hope your sons do not follow your footsteps!
yes, shame on you. although it seems like you “couldn’t help it”, man is responsible for his own actions. you put yourself in this situation, and currently you are quite happy. it might not go so well forever…
Dude. U had a kid with a prostitute. plain and simple. are u nuts?
sigh
do u know the meaning of marriage in the first place?! weren’t u in love with her when u marry her? was she bad to u? what u had with wati was temptation of ur raging hormone not love which later u got carried away! love is also recpect!! u should at least give that respect to ur dear wife. she deserve the truth, u hv no right to manipulate her.
u gotta choose who u wan.. let go of your wife… set her free frm you.. u dun deserve ur wife’s love at all.. be prepared to compensate her with lots $$$.. to ease her pain.. at least in this world, $$ is more important than you.
my uncle was in the same situation as you. had a “wife” in batam, and kids too, and bought for her a house etc.
so one day he made a surprise visit to his house in batam, and found a man in there. that man stays there every single day, except for the days when my uncle came over (since my uncle went over once every fortnight) The batam wife has been using my uncle as ATM – since every month he gives money.
so he left that wife, and went back to the original wife in Singapore, but somehow the first wife got to know thru friends, and now my uncle and aunt are divorced.
so good luck to you friend. i myself am a victim of infidelity, my husband cheated on me, and now, 8 months on I am still reeling from the pain. the marriage, is really hard to rebuild.
my husband now realised that you can be selfish, but you gotta pay for your selfish acts sooner or later.
u are so selfish, u dont deserve to be alive. i hope both your wives leave you.
You know what’s the sad part. I am sure there are many singaporean men who have wives in JB or Batam.
It’s a sad reality. I know a couple of my fathers friends have second families in Jakarta.
I have to agree that your behavior is very selfish.
My husband was online talking to some girls and that alone completely broke my heart. I can’t even imagine what it would be like for a woman to find out that her man has another family outside.
Your wife definitely deserves much better treatment. She has given you her love, her life and all her commitment to be returned with lies and deceit from you. You are so cruel. Do you have any idea how much pain a broken heart feels? Perhaps you don’t know. It takes a real heart to love.
F*** U
F*** U
what if your baby girls be a mistress too one day..?
I blamed Wati for all this mess, she
put your position into your wife’s
you are just a damn selfish, heartless and ungrateful bloke!
remember these phrases… “you reap what you sow” – “what you do unto others, others will do unto you”.
there is a mighty God above, and paper can NEVER wrap a fire – your secret will NEVER be a secret one day.
you were blessed with a gifted brains of an engineer, don’t you even know the simplest mathematics of life? you are so bloody dumb to give in to your horrific lust than to use your brains!
what comes round does come round. just not time yet. one day, you will know when it comes.
I blame YOU and WATI..
You’ll never realize what u have until it’s gone.
Do u really want to sacrifice a beautifl 15 years of marriage for a woman that might not be as good as ur wife?.
You sir! Had a chance to stop before it happened, u knew u were in trouble right?
Gosh, u’re 47, u should be more wise..
And Wati! You should have gone home!..why did u go to his room?
You’ll get what u give, both of you..
But I truly hope that none of ur children will ever feel this..
They, however, are innocent..
You should think thousands before u leave ur 1st wife..
you should ask GOD, He knows better..
You have betrayed those who have placed their trust in you. The day will come when u lie in your coffin and your wife & sons will spit into your face… Obviously, men like you have their brains in their dicks. You’re no hero, just a total let-down. This is how u shall be remembered when u vanish from the face of this earth.
how could u did that, have u ever think that u r a looser??
just like my hubby, u’re a hypocrite.. gosh.. all man in the world are idiots
You want the best of 2 worlds..You are selfish,if you don’t love your wife then you should not hold on…Men all love pretty woman…Have you even thought of your wife?
all i can say is you kinda a f***# idiot asshole ,
you will pay it someday what you have done to your wife and your kids, BIG BAD KARMA will after you for the rest of your life…
i was reading the comment to johnny p. wow…what a commen!
but they(comment) also have secret. and nobody knows too.
it dont need to be johnny story. it can be abortion.
how many woman has abortion before they settle down in marriage. how many of you have sex outside your marriage? how many of you have steal things in mall.
oh..how many of you have lie!!? well….think before you jude him.
I hope you have the courage to tell your wife the truth.
She deserves better.
Its man like you who really tarnish our reputation.
Terrible!
To the publisher of this article:
What are the intrinsic values of this articles? There should be educational value and social responsibility especially in publication for the masses.
Dear Value-added,
This article was published to create awareness.
Other than awareness , shouldn’t there responsibility to ensure that the right values is transmitted, or at least reflected ?
In no way are we supporting the authour or his actions, but unfortunately this is a real life issue, and we feel more people need to be aware that this is happening.
After launching this article, we received three emails from different people around Asia who have experienced such a thing in their marriages.
One was a man, who after reading this article, and all the comments, realised that he totally regretted his actions. He and his wife are now going for marriage counselling.
Whoah Johnny P
really2x bad moves bro. although it is fine now, but you are sitting in a landslide.
a simple mistakes or luck, everything will fall down.
Your wifes, your kids, your career will be impacted, your families, your friends. most of them would probably leave you. not to mentioned your names among your coleagues will be tarnished.
except for wati. You simply trade all that for her. hope she is worthed it bro.
you are 47, and wati is 19, isn’t it just like marrying your own child?! maybe this is the reason why you only have boys… ?!
How long do you think you can keep up with this thing going on?
Imagine if someday your bubbly baby girl be somebody’s mistress like Wati.
I wonder if your wife is a member in this facebook. If she reads this, she’ll know it was you all along. You are in a real mess. You’re in too deep to get out anyway.
My suggestion is, to leave Wati before your wife finds out. If she knows,..pray to God.
not now, but will see…
hope ur son not fall in love with ur daughter. can’t u imagine that?
it will gonna be ur biggest sin.
i think u should give an appoligize to your wife for your being..may she,your son, and God forgive 4 everything that u have done
Most males are MCP.U sure proved it. If yr wife had done the same, are U ok with it?????? To think you said all is not neglected. You better reconsider this statement. All is neglected excepted U. Attention from all in the wrong way. The selfish way. That’s it. U are damn selfish. All is abt U ,all the while. U are tempted,u felt like a schoolboy again, u are happily married for 15 yrs(big lie). Wake up this is a really world not yr la la land. U are sure going to pay for this and U are going to pay it BIG. MY PRAYER FOR U -ENJOY WHEN YOU PAY IT ALL ALONE.
It’s indeed an unfaithful act to ur wife. I bet she is a really good wife. Imagine if she also did the same thing to you but u dunno abt this at all this this time, how would u feel abt it? Dun mention abt being man & woman & it’s different. Human is just human, all the same. Fault is fault & mistake is mistake. No need to make up excuses to avoid responsibilities. God knows it, and for sure, you have to pay it off at some time.