
Some are sound advice with a traditional explanation. Some are harmless. A few cost money, sleep or health — and one of them is a crime.
1. Saffron makes the baby fair. No. Skin colour is genetic. Saffron is a pleasant, expensive spice and it changes nothing — and the belief itself deserves retiring, along with the preference behind it.
2. Papaya causes miscarriage. Half true: raw and semi-ripe papaya contains latex and is reasonably avoided; ripe papaya is fine in normal amounts.
3. Pineapple brings on labour. No, not in food quantities. Eat it if you enjoy it.
4. Ghee in the last month eases delivery. No. It is good food in normal amounts and it does not lubricate anything relevant.
5. 'Hot' and 'cold' foods must be balanced or the pregnancy is at risk. This is a traditional classification rather than a medical one. Eat a varied diet; the iron, calcium and protein are what matter.
6. Eating for two. No — the first trimester needs no extra calories and the later ones need roughly one extra snack, not a second thali.
7. Do not go out during an eclipse, do not use knives, lie still. No evidence of any effect on the baby. If the family keeps it, it is harmless — as long as it does not mean skipping a meal, a medicine or a hospital visit.
8. Do not tell anyone until three months. A custom, not a rule. It exists to avoid un-announcing a loss, and it also removes support during the hardest weeks — a trade worth deciding consciously.
9. Do not lift your arms above your head or the cord will wrap around the baby. No connection. Cord position is not affected by arm movements.
10. Do not attend funerals or see the dead. Cultural, harmless, and entirely a family decision.
11. Complete bed rest is safest. Untrue and often harmful: inactivity raises the risk of clots, gestational diabetes and excessive weight gain. Follow your own doctor's restrictions rather than a general rule.
12. The bump's shape tells you the sex. No. Bump shape reflects your build, the baby's position and how many pregnancies you have had. And note that in India, determining or disclosing fetal sex is a criminal offence under the PCPNDT Act — any clinic offering it is committing a crime.
13. Heartburn means a hairy baby. There is one small study that found a weak association, and it is a curiosity rather than a fact. Heartburn is hormones and a crowded stomach.
14. Severe nausea means a girl. Weak statistical association in some studies, useless for any individual pregnancy.
15. What you look at or think about shapes the baby's appearance or temperament. No. This one causes real anxiety in Indian pregnancies and is worth saying plainly: your thoughts do not mark your baby.
The traditions that matter medically are the ones that delay care. Go the same day, whatever the family says, for: bleeding, severe abdominal pain, leaking fluid, severe headache with visual changes, sudden swelling of face and hands, high fever, or reduced fetal movements after 28 weeks.
And take every supplement, herbal preparation and home remedy to your obstetrician — including the ones a relative is confident about. That single habit prevents most of the harm on this page.
This article is general information, not medical advice, and is no substitute for personal medical advice. For any decision about your or your child's health, please consult your doctor.
Q: How do I refuse a tradition without offending the family? — Keep the harmless ones cheerfully; they cost nothing and buy goodwill. Refuse the ones that affect food, medicine or medical care, once and clearly, ideally with the doctor's words rather than your own.
Q: My mother-in-law insists on a restricted diet. — Ask which foods specifically, and check them against our pregnancy diet guide. Most restrictions are harmless; the ones that remove protein, iron or fluid are not.
Q: Is there any tradition that is actually good advice? — Several. Rest in the last months, the postpartum confinement period, the emphasis on nourishing food after delivery, and the whole household feeding a new mother are all sound.
Q: Someone asked me to find out the baby's sex. — Refuse, and know that asking, telling and testing are all offences under the PCPNDT Act. It is one of the few areas where the law is unambiguous.
Published by: theAsianparent editorial team
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